Spiritual Aspect

There are three components of your child's spiritual self:

  1. his soul in his body
  2. his higher self/soul
  3. his ability to perceive and interact with the spiritual world

Both the higher self and the spiritual world offer support for your child as he lives his human life. Most adults are unaware of this world, but young children know it to be true and can hear, feel, smell and/or see it. They perceive and relate to it and it is very real to them. It is so real to them that they have no idea that you don't know it too. When you do not understand, it leads your child to question what he is experiencing and then he is likely to limit his own ability to relate to the spirit world, This affects the balanced integration of the mind, body and soul.


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Soul in the Body

The body is the soul's vehicle for this lifetime. So many people go through life feeling and judging this body as imperfect.  Very few can say they love their body and yet it is their most precious "possession". It has a limited lifespan and serves well if it is treated well. If your child's body is provided great love and care, it's easier for him to maintain a balanced, integrated system. The Physical Aspect section provides you with ideas to do this.


The Higher Self

Your child is a spiritual being who is experiencing a human life. Only a portion of his soul came here to live this life, and this portion integrates with his human body. The other portion of his soul that remains in spirit form is called his Higher Self.  It is "essentially the levels of the soul that have not integrated into this physical form because they are accelerated and extended above that, but who are reaching down to you at all times, holding your hand and pulling you up to their vibrational stance." (This was channeled for me from Alawshara by Leslie Michaels)  The relationship of your child with his Higher Self is his first and primary relationship and it lasts forever. Many spiritual teachers advocate that people learn to love themselves. If you think this is easy, just try standing in front of a mirror and looking into your own eyes and telling yourself "I love you." When love of self is acknowledged, it is a time of connection to the Higher Self who always loves the incarnated being. The Higher Self is loving, forgiving and supportive.  When a child knows his connection to his Higher Self, he is never lonely because he knows deep within himself that he is never alone during this earthly journey. He's tethered to the higher part of himself which is deeply connected to a a part of God or whatever word you use to express divine energy. He can remember or learn the love of this relationship. The Higher Self loves its human being beyond any description I can give. It watches, guides, loves, and patiently waits for its human to hear its guidance. It is an observer self that watches over your child's life and as such has an overall picture. It truly benefits your child to have a strong connection with his Higher Self and to learn to trust and love himself.



Self-love is first found by acknowledging a connection with your divine Higher Self. Years ago, I was asked if I knew I was divine.  I was completely befuddled by the question and could not comprehend the message.  I now understand that each and every human being is divine in that each person is a part of his Higher Self which is a part of the divine energy that supports all of us. The higher vibrational energy of the Higher Self is the same energy that is in each of us and binds us to each other because we come from the same energy.

When the mind, body and soul are fully integrated your child will feel more self-love and greater well-being. Your child's vibration is higher when he is more connected to the spirit world.  This increase in vibration occurs when a human being aligns with the vibration of his Higher Self. When your child's energy is aligned with his Higher Self, he feels good and this fosters self-love. Then the soul is more integrated with the human being.  There is less resistance, more willingness to be engaged in activities, to be happy, to have accomplishments and to build love relationships - the definition of well-being by Seligman. These conditions help your child find meaning in his life. 

Just briefly look at the difference between someone who has self-love and someone who is lacking it.  When self-love is lacking there is often, unhappiness, self-doubt, fear of other people's judgment, resistance, denigrating thoughts, reliance on the opinions of others, need for external rewards, low self-esteem, and  being critical. The presence of self-love creates a sense of well-being, creativity, trust in self, confidence, better health, resilience and faith in self.

The Higher Self loves both of these people. It's just that a child who lacks self-love often is his own worse enemy. It's like the old saying, "If you think you can't, you can't." Also, if he has self-love and confidence, magnetism and personal energy will radiate from him. This makes him an attractive person to other people and he functions better in society as well as copes with the ups and downs of life on earth.

You want your child to love himself in a way that he trusts and has confidence in himself, but not in a conceited or a self-absorbed manner. This gives him the ability to discriminate and make good choices that support him through circumstances that may be less than ideal for him as a child and the adult that he will become. Self-love and a connection to his Higher Self will support your child throughout his life.


Building Self-Love

As a parent you nurture your child's mind, body and soul and in doing so you acknowledge that he is lovable and that you love him. That's great but self-love comes from inside a person. Your child needs to believe that he is lovable. This can be difficult when teachers send him to timeout, when friends tease him, when he performs poorly, when he feels lousy, etc. Here are some ideas:

  1. Hug your child every day and continue as he gets older. When you hug you are entwined in each other's energy field and it feels good! It builds a strong connection. Remember your child first learns his value and lovability from you. You may think "of course" to this suggestion, but my experience working with parents has shown me that parents and kids can be unsure how to do this.  During parenting workshops with kids and parents in attendance, another teacher and I would "teach" parents the importance of and some tips for reading aloud to kids. In between reading books we would yell out "Hug Time!" At first people were pretty uncomfortable with this . We would even go so far as playing a song "Four Hugs a Day" that gives directions for giving a hug. So I know this can be an issue for some parents. Practice makes it more enjoyable!
  2. Play together. Fun and spontaneity are components of well-being. Parents so often are "the parent" who puts demands on a child. Playtime encourages your child to just have fun with you. It builds a stronger relationship between you and your child because you, who he loves, love playing with him. We pay lots of attention to babies and toddlers but give each of your older children five minutes of uninterrupted, engaged time each day. No multi-tasking during this time. A simple way to do this is to put dance music on and dance together. At first your child might just watch you, but eventually will join in. I still remember being a young child and my mom putting on "twist" music and dancing with us in the hallway.  Such a joy!
  3. Be honest in your praise. Alfie Kohn wrote Punish by Rewards and his premise is that kids need to learn internal/intrinsic motivation rather than looking for external motivation from another person. Then they benefit by praising themselves for living up to their own expectations. This is an important component of self-love. You should definitely praise your child for a job well done, but be careful about dishing out undeserved praise or bribing him to do something. Abraham Maslow's theory states that children raise their self esteem with praise from others first and then learn to provide themselves with praise that leads to even higher self esteem. If your praise is not deserved, your child may also begin to not believe your praise. He then feels alone and doubts any praise you offer. This will ultimately harm his self-love. Results aren't the only criteria as to when praise should be offered. Effort is worth of praise. " I like how much time and effort you put into your project." Supportive honesty is the best answer when a child does not live up to expectations. Ask him "So how did that go?" Then "Why did that happen?" Self reflection is a powerful tool to increase motivation. Also, remember that specific praise leads kids to repeat what was praised. Another thing to remember is that your child feels most successful if he receives at least three positive comments for every negative one. This holds true for all relationships. http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2015/12/03/flourishing-emotionally-positivity-ratio.aspx
  4. Encourage your child to trust his intuition as discussed in the Mental Aspect. This helps him to connect to the spirit world where so much help is available. The more he uses it, the more accurate it becomes. It is very validating when you know that you are right.
  5. Monitor your child's physical needs and make sure they are met as discussed in the Physical Aspect. It's hard to love oneself if the body is not performing at its peak.
  6. Model forgiveness for and the ability to let go of things that didn't work out. Mistakes are to be learned from, not to impale self-love. When you model attributes like forgiveness and resilience you teach your child how to stop self-blame and how to search for solutions. Knowing when an idea is not working and letting it go is a great life skill.
  7. Give yourself and your child a break. Teach him how to be present in the moment. When I ran an after school program for elementary students in grades 3-5, yoga was the most popular class. There was always a waiting list. Kids crave peace. Some elementary schools are now teaching mindfulness. Not only is this relaxing and a moment for your child to connect with himself, it also builds good mental abilities that serve your child well across his life.  A seven year old girl was asked by her mother if she noticed a difference in how she felt on the ADHD meds as compared to not taking them. "I'll have to go into my mindfulness to answer that."  Kids get this!  This link explains mindfulness for children better than I can. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sarah-rudell-beach-/8-ways-to-teach-mindfulness-kids_b_5611721.html


Psychic Children

Most children are psychic. To be psychic means to perceive energy and recognize it a meaningful. The younger children are the more likely they are to be psychic. To them this is a normal state of affairs and they don't know that you don't hear and see what they hear and see. 

Several true stories:

  • A three year old girl was sitting in the bathtub while her grandmother was fixing her own hair. When Grandma was done, she said to her grandaughter "Come on. Let's go."  "But Grandma, I'm still talking to the nice lady." Grandma didn't see anyone but asked, "What's her name?" "Mrs. Henry." Henry is the grandmother's maiden name.  The girl had just identified her grandmother's mother and her own great grandmother. 
  • 60 Minutes did a profile on a musical prodigy named Alma. She was 12 years old.  Alma says she has a group of "make-believe" composers who help her write her music. It is possible that she is communicating with the spirit world. Here is part of the interview. Alma says "I have lots of imaginary composers. And one of them is called Antonin Yellowsink." Antonin Yellowsink, Alma's imaginary composing friend, is an insight into the music of her mind. Alma told us that she made up a country where imaginary composers write, each in his own style of emotion. Scott Pelley: "So how many composers do you have in your head?" Alma Deutscher: "I have lots of composers. And sometimes when I'm stuck with something, when I'm composing, I go to them and ask them for advice. And quite often, they come up with very interesting things." Her talent is exceptional. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/alma-deutscher-60-minutes-the-prodigy-whose-first-language-is-mozart/
  • A five year old, with little religious training, while riding in the car suddenly said that "you take a portal to heaven like riding an escalator up." He then said that he wants to go to heaven. His mom told him that he needs to cool his jets and wait until he's at least 80 years old. Then he told her that she'd go first but that it'd be okay because family is there. He continued with the statement "heaven's really here on earth at the same time, but we can't see it."
  • A thirty-five year old Navajo man told me that one night, when he was 12 years old living in his grandmother's hogan, he saw Kokopelli dancing outside. The dancer had his flute and feathers on his head. The boy ran back inside and brought all the adults outside to see. No one could see Kokopelli but him.  To this day he knows what he saw.

The spiritual world is a part of children's lives. Enjoy their view when they say something and be grateful that they shared it with you.

There are several reasons that children are psychic. 

  • Their brain waves spend a lot of time in "theta" from birth through age 5 (Jenson, Eric, Enriching the Brain, John Wiley and Sons, San Francisco, CA, 2006, p. 92). As children grow older the amount of time typically diminishes but some children have theta waves into later childhood. Theta wave activity correlates with sleep, intuitive thought, spiritual experiences and is the state that psychics use to receive information.  
  • Their energy/soul is more recently from the energetic form. They recognize "energy" that is vibrating at a higher frequency than most adults can perceive.
  • Their minds are not focused on the concerns of daily living in the physical world. 

There are many different types of of psychic experiences.  Here are some: 

  1. Spirit visits (angels, guides, saints, humans and animals).
  2. Remembering previous lives
  3. Forecasting/predicting
  4. Remembering life in "heaven"
  5. Strong religious connection
  6. Talking to humans and/or animals that you can't see
  7. Relationship with dead grandparents
  8. Knowing things that they should not know
  9. Awareness of the energy of others

Supporting Your Child

When your child says something that you think is psychic or spiritual, you want to listen and respond.  "Wow!" is better than "You're crazy" or "You must have been dreaming." If the child believed he was dreaming he would have said, "I had a dream that Grandpa was in." Kids know the difference.  Besides "Wow" you might add, "Oh, that's wonderful. I miss him a lot. You are so lucky." Your child gets the message that this is a good thing and is glad that he shared the experience with you.

Another validating response is to restate what your child tells you. "So last night Grandpa visited you and you saw him in your bedroom (or wherever). He was wearing his favorite shirt and he smiled at you." (Restate whatever your child told you.) If you've got it wrong your child will be happy to clear up any misunderstandings and you'll know that you heard him correctly.

If your child wants to know what it was he saw and is old enough, explain that it was Grandpa's soul that came visiting. If you have not previously discussed souls, now would be the time to share what you understand about souls.  This is what I would say.  "We are all souls. Your soul is connected to your body while you are a living human being. Your soul lives forever. It is who you really are. Souls come to earth to learn about love or to help someone learn about love and when the time is right they will leave their body and return to where they came from."

Children's interest will not last as long as your interest in the subject. Be prepared for what I call the flip. Children do the flip quickly when discussing their spiritual experiences. You can be discussing and/or listening to an unusual conversation and suddenly the child can be off on another completely unrelated and more "normal" topic. It can be disconcerting because you will want to know more about what the child experienced but he will be on to the toy he wants. Perhaps this happens because adults are too busy trying to comprehend what the child is talking about or how he would know that. When we don't respond immediately, the kids move on. Or maybe, it's just that Spirit is so normal to children.

Concerns about Spirit Visits

If you or your child is concerned about Spirit visits, there are specific actions that you can take to control them and provide protection.

  • Request that they not visit.  Teach your child to state, "Spirit, go away if you don't love me. Thank you." You can say "Spirit, if you love my child you are welcome here. Please go away if you don't. Thank you."
  • Ask Archangel Michael to protect your child or have your child ask.
  • Learn to build a "bubble of protection". You may place it for your child or you may teach him to place it around himself. You know your child's ability to understand conceptual thinking so you decide if he is ready to learn how to visualize. This bubble of protection may be built in several ways. The simplest is to visualize your body surrounded by a beautiful colored light and say " I am protected from all harm." Another way is to hold your hands about six inches apart and visualize a globe of golden light in your hands. Slowly pull your hands apart and expand the globe. Breathe in as you expand the globe and exhale as the hands come closer. When the globe is 18 inches or so in diameter, lift it above your head and draw it down over your body and then affirm "I am protected from all harm." Some people prefer to step into the bubble and draw it up around them. Always release a protective bubble with a blessing to protect the person and with gratitude. "Thank you for divine protection for ____."
  • Another tool to control spirit visits is to ignore the unwelcome spirits. Once spirits discover that a person can see them, they find those people. They want to be noticed. If they know people are aware of them, they can come in droves. I guess they are frustrated that most of us don't see them. A true story: A six year old boy discussed seeing spirits with his mom. He was surprised that she couldn't see them since he saw a lot of them in the room. Mom decided that she had to go to the bathroom and the boy followed her as only a young child will. "O-oh," he said, "You're not going to like this. There are lots of them in here with us." At which point Mom kicked him out of the bathroom and told him to take his "friends" with him.

Remember Help Your Child Understand Visitations

  1. Acknowledge the visitations. "Tell me about it."
  2. Explain that they are seeing energy/soul/spirit.
  3. Explain that the spirit is probably someone who loves them. Ask them to describe the person they see. Perhaps you will recognize them.  Maybe you have an old photograph to show them.
  4. If they feel threatened, teach them to "bubble" themselves or do it for them.
  5. Teach them to tell the spirit "Go away if you don't love me. Thank you."
  6. Teach them to ignore the unwelcome spirits.
  7. If your spiritual beliefs agree, advise them that they may call on angels to protect them. Archangel Michael is known for his ability to provide protection,


Your Child's Soul Travel

Most nights while your child's body is sleeping, a portion of his soul leaves his body and visits the spirit world. The soul misses its spiritual home especially since the physical body vibrates at a slower rate than the soul. The soul can feel confined by the physical body and so at night it returns to that comforting vibration.

If your your child is concerned about this, there are three things to do.

  1. Ask for spiritual protection either through prayer or a direct appeal to a spirit that is important to you. If you want to know more about who is available, read Doreen Virtues" book, Ascended Masters. Do not ask for your child not to soul travel. It is my understanding that it is beneficial. If you ask for spiritual protection think about how the child might hear the prayer. When I was a child, I learned this prayer: "Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep, if I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take." I really didn't want anyone to take my soul.  One of these prayers would work better. "Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep. Angels watch me through the night, and wake me with the morning light."  (Limburg, James, Encountering Ecclesiastes:  a book for our time, Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing, 2006,p 103.) Or perhaps this "Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep. Guide me through the starry night. Wake me when the sun shines bright." (https://www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Now_I_Lay_Me_Down_To_Sleep#cite_note-onealmunger-1) Both of these prayers ask to be woken once the sun comes up. Many parents love help keeping their child in bed in the early morning! Of course, you can substitute "Lord" with any word to fit your spiritual beliefs.
  2. Wake your child slowly and gently in the morning in case he is still off visiting. Give him the opportunity to reintegrate with his body. Leave enough time so that you aren't rushing him.
  3. If your child wakes up grumpy and/or frustrated he may have visited a higher vibrational field, and be frustrated to be back in this denser field. The best way I know to help your child reintegrate his traveling soul is to have him take several deep, long breaths and place his hands on his chest. He can do this anytime he feels out of sorts. Stomping his feet can also bring his energy comfortable back into his body. Also, if he is not willing to do any of this, you can try placing your hand in the center of his back and let your calm energy support him. 

I've received this information about soul travel during sleep repeatedly and I've rechecked this with several psychics and they all confirm this happens. In addition, during a session with the spirit Dr. Peeples, as channeled by Kimberly Dumaine, I asked if a child does soul travel during sleep. http://www.kimdumaine.com

Dr. Peeples said: "Yes indeed my dear, we are going in and out of our bodies every night while you are in the sleep state. You think you are still in body all the time? You need to go or you'd go a little crazy if you had to stay all the time. So you pop out every night. That is often when you have those dreams of flying or traveling. It is your soul traveling. You are out of your body. Children are in and out of their bodies even more than adults for they are free and they remember more the lack of confinement. They remember the spirit word more clearly than those for whom the veil has dropped so hard they have forgotten where they come from. So the children understand it. They are more free and they are able to share it with you. It is only the adult world that convinces them that it does not occur. For indeed our spirits need to be relieved of the confines, the physical pressures of the physical body, otherwise we would feel quite trapped indeed. So we need to release every night that we get and that is why also when you allow yourself to go into a meditative state you are freeing yourself for a short time and when you return you are refreshed. It is indeed as if you have been sleeping. Your spirit is allowed to travel. Your spirit is allowed to be restored. Often times in the sleep time you are taken to the temple of healing in the etheric realms. Your soul gets around quite a bit. There is no need for you to be in that physical container 24 hours a day. You are more free than you ever imagined."

Don't fear this soul travel. It's natural and a gift that humans have to release some of the stress of our everyday lives. Be thankful for it!


So answer this...

How has this section influenced your feelings about your child's connection to Spirit?  What did you learn that you will try today?


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