There are three components of your child's spiritual self:
Both the higher self and the spiritual world offer support for your child as he lives his human life. Most adults are unaware of this world, but young children know it to be true and can hear, feel, smell and/or see it. They perceive and relate to it and it is very real to them. It is so real to them that they have no idea that you don't know it too. When you do not understand, it leads your child to question what he is experiencing and then he is likely to limit his own ability to relate to the spirit world, This affects the balanced integration of the mind, body and soul.
The body is the soul's vehicle for this lifetime. So many people go through life feeling and judging this body as imperfect. Very few can say they love their body and yet it is their most precious "possession". It has a limited lifespan and serves well if it is treated well. If your child's body is provided great love and care, it's easier for him to maintain a balanced, integrated system. The Physical Aspect section provides you with ideas to do this.
Your child is a spiritual being who is experiencing a human life. Only a portion of his soul came here to live this life, and this portion integrates with his human body. The other portion of his soul that remains in spirit form is called his Higher Self. It is "essentially the levels of the soul that have not integrated into this physical form because they are accelerated and extended above that, but who are reaching down to you at all times, holding your hand and pulling you up to their vibrational stance." (This was channeled for me from Alawshara by Leslie Michaels) The relationship of your child with his Higher Self is his first and primary relationship and it lasts forever. Many spiritual teachers advocate that people learn to love themselves. If you think this is easy, just try standing in front of a mirror and looking into your own eyes and telling yourself "I love you." When love of self is acknowledged, it is a time of connection to the Higher Self who always loves the incarnated being. The Higher Self is loving, forgiving and supportive. When a child knows his connection to his Higher Self, he is never lonely because he knows deep within himself that he is never alone during this earthly journey. He's tethered to the higher part of himself which is deeply connected to a a part of God or whatever word you use to express divine energy. He can remember or learn the love of this relationship. The Higher Self loves its human being beyond any description I can give. It watches, guides, loves, and patiently waits for its human to hear its guidance. It is an observer self that watches over your child's life and as such has an overall picture. It truly benefits your child to have a strong connection with his Higher Self and to learn to trust and love himself.
Self-love is first found by acknowledging a connection with your divine Higher Self. Years ago, I was asked if I knew I was divine. I was completely befuddled by the question and could not comprehend the message. I now understand that each and every human being is divine in that each person is a part of his Higher Self which is a part of the divine energy that supports all of us. The higher vibrational energy of the Higher Self is the same energy that is in each of us and binds us to each other because we come from the same energy.
When the mind, body and soul are fully integrated your child will feel more self-love and greater well-being. Your child's vibration is higher when he is more connected to the spirit world. This increase in vibration occurs when a human being aligns with the vibration of his Higher Self. When your child's energy is aligned with his Higher Self, he feels good and this fosters self-love. Then the soul is more integrated with the human being. There is less resistance, more willingness to be engaged in activities, to be happy, to have accomplishments and to build love relationships - the definition of well-being by Seligman. These conditions help your child find meaning in his life.
Just briefly look at the difference between someone who has self-love and someone who is lacking it. When self-love is lacking there is often, unhappiness, self-doubt, fear of other people's judgment, resistance, denigrating thoughts, reliance on the opinions of others, need for external rewards, low self-esteem, and being critical. The presence of self-love creates a sense of well-being, creativity, trust in self, confidence, better health, resilience and faith in self.
The Higher Self loves both of these people. It's just that a child who lacks self-love often is his own worse enemy. It's like the old saying, "If you think you can't, you can't." Also, if he has self-love and confidence, magnetism and personal energy will radiate from him. This makes him an attractive person to other people and he functions better in society as well as copes with the ups and downs of life on earth.
You want your child to love himself in a way that he trusts and has confidence in himself, but not in a conceited or a self-absorbed manner. This gives him the ability to discriminate and make good choices that support him through circumstances that may be less than ideal for him as a child and the adult that he will become. Self-love and a connection to his Higher Self will support your child throughout his life.
As a parent you nurture your child's mind, body and soul and in doing so you acknowledge that he is lovable and that you love him. That's great but self-love comes from inside a person. Your child needs to believe that he is lovable. This can be difficult when teachers send him to timeout, when friends tease him, when he performs poorly, when he feels lousy, etc. Here are some ideas:
Most children are psychic. To be psychic means to perceive energy and recognize it a meaningful. The younger children are the more likely they are to be psychic. To them this is a normal state of affairs and they don't know that you don't hear and see what they hear and see.
Several true stories:
The spiritual world is a part of children's lives. Enjoy their view when they say something and be grateful that they shared it with you.
There are several reasons that children are psychic.
There are many different types of of psychic experiences. Here are some:
Supporting Your Child
When your child says something that you think is psychic or spiritual, you want to listen and respond. "Wow!" is better than "You're crazy" or "You must have been dreaming." If the child believed he was dreaming he would have said, "I had a dream that Grandpa was in." Kids know the difference. Besides "Wow" you might add, "Oh, that's wonderful. I miss him a lot. You are so lucky." Your child gets the message that this is a good thing and is glad that he shared the experience with you.
Another validating response is to restate what your child tells you. "So last night Grandpa visited you and you saw him in your bedroom (or wherever). He was wearing his favorite shirt and he smiled at you." (Restate whatever your child told you.) If you've got it wrong your child will be happy to clear up any misunderstandings and you'll know that you heard him correctly.
If your child wants to know what it was he saw and is old enough, explain that it was Grandpa's soul that came visiting. If you have not previously discussed souls, now would be the time to share what you understand about souls. This is what I would say. "We are all souls. Your soul is connected to your body while you are a living human being. Your soul lives forever. It is who you really are. Souls come to earth to learn about love or to help someone learn about love and when the time is right they will leave their body and return to where they came from."
Children's interest will not last as long as your interest in the subject. Be prepared for what I call the flip. Children do the flip quickly when discussing their spiritual experiences. You can be discussing and/or listening to an unusual conversation and suddenly the child can be off on another completely unrelated and more "normal" topic. It can be disconcerting because you will want to know more about what the child experienced but he will be on to the toy he wants. Perhaps this happens because adults are too busy trying to comprehend what the child is talking about or how he would know that. When we don't respond immediately, the kids move on. Or maybe, it's just that Spirit is so normal to children.
Concerns about Spirit Visits
If you or your child is concerned about Spirit visits, there are specific actions that you can take to control them and provide protection.
Remember Help Your Child Understand Visitations
Most nights while your child's body is sleeping, a portion of his soul leaves his body and visits the spirit world. The soul misses its spiritual home especially since the physical body vibrates at a slower rate than the soul. The soul can feel confined by the physical body and so at night it returns to that comforting vibration.
If your your child is concerned about this, there are three things to do.
I've received this information about soul travel during sleep repeatedly and I've rechecked this with several psychics and they all confirm this happens. In addition, during a session with the spirit Dr. Peeples, as channeled by Kimberly Dumaine, I asked if a child does soul travel during sleep. http://www.kimdumaine.com
Dr. Peeples said: "Yes indeed my dear, we are going in and out of our bodies every night while you are in the sleep state. You think you are still in body all the time? You need to go or you'd go a little crazy if you had to stay all the time. So you pop out every night. That is often when you have those dreams of flying or traveling. It is your soul traveling. You are out of your body. Children are in and out of their bodies even more than adults for they are free and they remember more the lack of confinement. They remember the spirit word more clearly than those for whom the veil has dropped so hard they have forgotten where they come from. So the children understand it. They are more free and they are able to share it with you. It is only the adult world that convinces them that it does not occur. For indeed our spirits need to be relieved of the confines, the physical pressures of the physical body, otherwise we would feel quite trapped indeed. So we need to release every night that we get and that is why also when you allow yourself to go into a meditative state you are freeing yourself for a short time and when you return you are refreshed. It is indeed as if you have been sleeping. Your spirit is allowed to travel. Your spirit is allowed to be restored. Often times in the sleep time you are taken to the temple of healing in the etheric realms. Your soul gets around quite a bit. There is no need for you to be in that physical container 24 hours a day. You are more free than you ever imagined."
Don't fear this soul travel. It's natural and a gift that humans have to release some of the stress of our everyday lives. Be thankful for it!
How has this section influenced your feelings about your child's connection to Spirit? What did you learn that you will try today?
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