Your child's body is his soul's home during this incarnation. The soul grew it to fulfill its intention of living this life, and it is a divine, miraculous creation that allows and supports his human life. Teach your child to love it, value it, treat it and use it well. When the body is in optimal form, it supports the integration of the mind, body and soul and the influence of his emotions. I know you know your child's body well, but there are two areas of the physical aspect of your child that will benefit from your increased understanding.
Your child's body includes more than is visible to the human eye. When soul energy incarnates it merges into the body creating an energy field. This energy field has several layers, each with its own characteristics that impact behavior, health and spirituality. As a parent it is only important that you accept this usually invisible field and that you acknowledge it when you interact with your child. You can learn the details of it if you want, but this is not necessary for you to work with it. You already work with this energy, but may not use it consciously. Use it to increase your ease in parenting and your child's happiness. Each time you take your child's hand, you are connecting with him in a physical and an energetic manner. You do energy work naturally, but I want you to do it consciously and to become aware of its power.
Energy work is simply making a connection with another person while acknowledging that person's natural energetic connection with you. If you are angry, anger will be transmitted. If you feel loving, love will be transmitted, etc. Your energy speaks much louder than your words and impacts another person's response to you. It's not just the physcal look on your face, but the energy that reaches out from your body and touches the other person. You are intimately connected to your child and he to you. This is not about DNA and includes adopted kids.
This energy field vibrates at a higher rate than the body so it is not usually visible to human beings. It's about vibration and light. Think about helicopter or fan blades. When they are moving fast, you can't see them, but they are still there. During the day the stars are still there, but you can't see them. Science knows that some animals perceive objects visible at different wavelengths than we humans can see. You probably do not see the energy field around your child, but it's still there. Some people can feel it and/or see it. No one likes someone who stands too close to them. Become aware of your energy field and that of your child because they can blend beautifully or cause challenges. Barbara Brennan, an expert on this, says that the human energy field reaches out about three and one half feet from the body. (Brennan, Barbara Ann, Light Emerging, Bantam, New York, NY., 1993) Sometimes you want to be right in you child's field and sometimes it is to everyone's advantage to keep your energy to yourself or to give your child the space he needs to control his energy. For more info check out Barbara Brennan and Richard Gerber, M.D. Vibrational Medicine, Bear & Company, Rochester, Vermont, 2001.
The soul, an energetic vibrational being, chose to come to earth in this body, however it needs to learn how to be fully present in the body to be most successful in life. To be fully present means that the mind, body and soul are firmly rooted and active in the current life experience. This allows your child to participate, engage, create and learn more.
"It is grounding or let us say creating an anchor for the soul where the soul can be in a space that allows the body and the mind to be fully present with each other without limiting itself to that house. The soul will still be out here reaching all the way to infinity, but the part of the soul that needs the physical experience, or they would not have reincarnated in the first place, will be anchored here fully, consciously so that evolution can take place which only serves to raise the vibration all the way up the chain. Additionally, as you are fully grounded into your physical life, the higher levels, vibrationally speaking, of the soul and its consciousness can move information in through this consciousness and this body more clearly, which allow spontaneous awakenings at each moment." (Alawshara as channeled by Lesley Michaels for me)
When your child is grounded he is very involved with the present moment and this allows him to participate fully in and learn from that moment. It supports focus and the ability to pay attention to what is happening "now". Think of all the times this is important - school, completing activities, following up on intentions, listening to you. It is important across his life.
Grounding is when the energy of your child is firmly in tune with his physical presence as a human being. It is in this state that your child functions best as a person. It is another way to describe the integration of mind, body and soul into this human life.
This refers to your child's needs of safety (including anxiety issues), diet, water, sleep, etc. Also, your child may have sensitivity to physical surroundings including auditory, tactile and visual stimulation.
Your child needs the ability to control his energy to sustain engagement, focus and activity completion. Also, he needs the ability to transition between activities. This is explored more fully on the Mental Aspect page.
Please see the mental and spiritual aspect pages for further information,
Soul reintegration after soul travel is discussed on the Spiritual Aspect page.
Your child needs to feel safe to fully engage in this physical life. Worry is a distraction. Children fret over their families, friends, bullies, situations, shyness, self worth, etc. In addition, in our world today, our children have knowledge of fearful situations. Anything that impacts a child's confidence in his safety makes it difficult to be grounded and engaged. Also, the soul remembers previous lives where it was not safe (see Mental Aspect). Remember safety is a part of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (see Your Child's Needs). Sometimes difficult situations arise in our families like divorce, death, illness, etc. At these times your child needs to know that he is safe. This does not mean hiding the situation from your child. He is too smart for that and can "read" your energy. Keep his life as normal as possible and talk with him about it. The unknown is far more scary than the known.
Sensitivity to physical surroundings including auditory, tactile and visual stimulation impacts some children's ability to ground and be present. It agitates them and makes the body less comfortable. This distracts them from their intention to participate with activities. A couple of ideas:
Lack of sensitivity to his environment can be another problem. He can be like a "bull in a china shop." He does not have awareness of his body in space or adequate control over his body movements. Exercises or games like hand clapping that cross the midline of the body help with this. Learning to jump rope can cause him to focus on his body in space. Actually, any activity that causes the child to be aware of what he is doing physically helps.
There are a few children who need a lot of support with sensitivity. If you need more help, there are professionals who work in the field of Sensory Integration.
Routines and rituals alert the child that he needs to prepare for an activity. They cue the body which responds automatically after a routine is established. They support your child's willingness to cooperate, especially with everyday activities like going to bed, doing homework, cleaning up. A routine can make your child feel safe and competent because it is a repetitive action that he can learn to accomplish on his own. Many parents create a visual guide for their child to follow because it supports routines. In addition, praise the behaviors that you want the child to repeat. Be very specific. For instance, "I like the way you put your book back on the bookshelf when you finished reading it." Children are more likely to repeat things that are specifically praised. If you just said, "Good job" the child has not heard specific feedback on what he should repeat. Specific feedback catches the mind's attention. Routines support physical muscle memory.
Use time alerts to help your child transition to another activity. You will get more cooperation if you give him a warning. For instance, "John, in 5 minutes, it will be time to take a bath." Use his name to get his attention and then state what will happen next, not what will have to stop. For young children you may want to count backwards from 10 or 20 during the last seconds. A time alert provides your child with time to mentally, physically and emotionally withdraw from one activity and prepare for the next. Some kids benefit from watching a timer so that it is not you who is saying time is up. If your child can physically do so, let him set the timer to give him some control and get his buy-in. Some parents let their kids set a smartphone and choose a ringtone. Some parents play a song and the kids know when it's over, it's bedtime or whatever. Music cues the body.
You can support your child by using your energy to calm his energy or by teaching him to change his energy. Energy changes affect behavior, grounding and emotions. Some ideas:
Teach your child to drink more water. Water composes 90% of a baby's body. This amount decreases over the years. An adult's body is about 60% water. Water is a great conductor of energy and serves as a lubricant throughout the body. To amp up the benefits of water, bless it. Dr. Masaru Emoto studied the effects of blessings on water when it is frozen into ice crystals. He found that ice crystals formed of water that was blessed were stunningly beautiful and usually symmetrical, whereas ice crystals from polluted water, or when ugly words were spoken to it, were not beautiful. (Emoto, Masaru, The Hidden Messages in Water, Beyond Words Publishing, Hillsboro, Oregon, 2004)
Two lessons from this:
A simple way to enhance your child's water is to draw a heart on his water bottle or place a heart sticker on it. Don't just buy a bottle with a heart on it. It is important that you participate in the thought.
There are two concerns about your child's sleep patterns.
The first is usually helped by improving the second. Research indicates that most children do not get enough sleep. Often they habituate to the number of hours they are use to getting and we think that is all the sleep they need. In fact, if they sleep more, they function better in all realms: physical, mental, spiritual and emotional. The Sleep Foundation website has information about the amount of sleep needed by each age range and suggestions to support these amounts. Research indicates that most parents (75%) underestimate their children's sleep needs. So your child's integration of mind, body and soul might benefit with more sleep than he is accustomed to getting. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21546852 and http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/sleep-topics/children-and-sleep
Here are 10 suggestions:
Between children being picky eaters and a parent's desire to quickly and easily provide meals, children often do not have an optimal diet. This affects their physical being, their behavior and their soul integration. Remember that the soul can feel confined in a physical body and if the body is not well-tuned the soul has more difficulty integrating fully. If your child is often grumpy, sluggish, not performing up to his potential or has poor behavior consider his diet. Even if you provide excellent food, he may be eating elsewhere. Be aware that many schools now provide free breakfast for children. This is a benefit to the children who need it, but is it calories your child needs? This breakfast contains a lot of processed foods and sugars. How does sugar effect your child? Many people have an energy let down about an hour after eating a sweet, and some children do become hyper with sweets. Watch out for breakfast foods loaded with sugar and never put a sweet in your child's lunchbox. I've watched many, many children eat the sweet first and then not be hungry enough to eat his nutritious lunch despite promises he made to you to do so. A child needs an energy balance, not glucose fluctuation, to support his integration of mind, body and soul so that he can engage in activity in a grounded manner. In addition, life long eating habits are being formed. Don't give sugar treats as a reward or to make him feel better. If you do so you are training him to use food as an emotional crutch and this can lead to eating problems/obesity as he grows up.
What did you learn that you will implement today to support your child's physical aspect?