Physical Aspect

Your child's body is his soul's home during this incarnation.  The soul grew it to fulfill its intention of living this life, and it is a divine, miraculous creation that allows and supports his human life.  Teach your child to love it, value it, treat it and use it well. When the body is in optimal form, it supports the integration of the mind, body and soul and the influence of his emotions.  I know you know your child's body well, but there are two areas of the physical aspect of your child that will benefit from your increased understanding.


  1. His energy body
  2. The grounding of his soul and mind in the body.

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The Physical Aspect Video

An Energetic Body

Your child's body includes more than is visible to the human eye.  When soul energy incarnates it merges into the body creating an energy field.  This energy field has several layers, each with its own characteristics that impact behavior, health and spirituality.  As a parent it is only important that you accept this usually invisible field and that you acknowledge it when you interact with your child.  You can learn the details of it if you want, but this is not necessary for you to work with it.  You already work with this energy, but may not use it consciously.   Use it to increase your ease in parenting and your child's happiness.  Each time you take your child's hand, you are connecting with him in a physical and an energetic manner.  You do energy work naturally, but I want you to do it consciously and to become aware of its power.


Energy work is simply making a connection with another person while acknowledging that person's natural energetic connection with you.  If you are angry, anger will be transmitted.  If you feel loving, love will be transmitted, etc.  Your energy speaks much louder than your words and impacts another person's response to you.  It's not just the physcal look on your face, but the energy that reaches out from your body and touches the other person.  You are intimately connected to your child and he to you.  This is not about DNA and includes adopted kids.


This energy field vibrates at a higher rate than the body so it is not usually visible to human beings. It's about vibration and light.  Think about helicopter or fan blades.  When they are moving fast, you can't see them, but they are still there.  During the day the stars are still there, but you can't see them.  Science knows that some animals perceive objects visible at different wavelengths than we humans can see.  You probably do not see the energy field around your child, but it's still there. Some people can feel it and/or see it.  No one likes someone who stands too close to them. Become aware of your energy field and that of your child because they can blend beautifully or cause challenges.  Barbara Brennan, an expert on this, says that the human energy field reaches out about three and one half feet from the body.  (Brennan, Barbara Ann, Light Emerging, Bantam, New York, NY., 1993)  Sometimes you want to be right in you child's field and sometimes it is to everyone's advantage to keep your energy to yourself or to give your child the space he needs to control his energy.   For more info check out Barbara Brennan and Richard Gerber, M.D. Vibrational Medicine, Bear & Company, Rochester, Vermont, 2001.

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Grounding

The soul, an energetic vibrational being, chose to come to earth in this body, however it needs to learn how to be fully present in the body to be most successful in life.  To be fully present means that the mind, body and soul are firmly rooted and active in the current life experience.  This allows your child to participate, engage, create and learn more.


"It is grounding or let us say creating an anchor for the soul where the soul can be in a space that allows the body and the mind to be fully present with each other without limiting itself to that house.  The soul will still be out here reaching all the way to infinity, but the part of the soul that needs the physical experience, or they would not have reincarnated in the first place, will be anchored here fully, consciously so that evolution can take place which only serves to raise the vibration all the way up the chain.  Additionally, as you are fully grounded into your physical life, the higher levels, vibrationally speaking, of the soul and its consciousness can move information in through this consciousness and this body more clearly, which allow spontaneous awakenings at each moment."  (Alawshara as channeled by Lesley Michaels for me)


When your child is grounded he is very involved with the present moment and this allows him to participate fully in and learn from that moment.  It supports focus and the ability to pay attention to what is happening "now".   Think of all the times this is important - school, completing activities, following up on intentions, listening to you.  It is important across his life.


Grounding is when the energy of your child is firmly in tune with his physical presence as a human being.  It is in this state that your child functions best as a person.  It is another way to describe the integration of mind, body and soul into this human life.

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Potential Roadblocks to Grounding

Physical Comfort

This refers to your child's needs of safety (including anxiety issues), diet, water, sleep, etc.  Also, your child may have sensitivity to physical surroundings including auditory, tactile and visual stimulation. 

Energy Control

Your child needs the ability to control his energy to sustain engagement, focus and activity completion.  Also, he needs the ability to transition between activities.  This is explored more fully on the Mental Aspect page.

Memories of "heaven"

Please see the mental and spiritual aspect pages for further information,

Soul Reintegration

Soul reintegration after soul travel is discussed on the Spiritual Aspect page.

How to Support your Child

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Physical and Mental Comfort

Your child needs to feel safe to fully engage in this physical life.  Worry is a distraction. Children fret over their families, friends, bullies, situations, shyness, self worth, etc.  In addition, in our world today, our children have knowledge of fearful situations.  Anything that impacts a child's confidence in his safety makes it difficult to be grounded and engaged. Also, the soul remembers previous lives where it was not safe (see Mental Aspect). Remember safety is a part of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (see Your Child's Needs). Sometimes difficult situations arise in our families like divorce, death, illness, etc.  At these times your child needs to know that he is safe.  This does not mean hiding the situation from your child.  He is too smart for that and can "read" your energy.  Keep his life as normal as possible and talk with him about it.  The unknown is far more scary than the known.
Sensitivity to physical surroundings including auditory, tactile and visual stimulation impacts some children's ability to ground and be present.  It agitates them and makes the body less comfortable.  This distracts them from their intention to participate with activities. A couple of ideas:

  1. If your child is distracted by his clothes, make sure he is wearing "soft" clothes that do not itch or bind. Buy the kind with the labels printed on the fabric rather than tags.
  2. If your child is annoyed by noises, play music (or other white noise and there's an app for that) or give him earplugs. This really helps him at night.
  3. Get your child engaged in an activity that will over-ride the stimulation. This could be a physical or mental activity.  This distracts the mind and body from the annoying stimulation.  For instance, jumping up and down brings your child's awareness to his body as he lands on the ground and as he brings his attention to jumping up.
  4. If your child has difficulty with light, especially overhead lights, allow him to wear a cap inside.  Many kids who are sensitive like to wear caps.  Watch for eye rubbing, lots of looking down and squinting.  You should have an eye doctor check these situations out, but if his eyes are fine, try a cap.  FYI - Sadly, most schools will not allow kids to wear caps inside (and this is where overhead fluorescent lights are!).

Lack of sensitivity to his environment can be another problem.  He can be like a "bull in a china shop." He does not have awareness of his body in space or adequate control over his body movements. Exercises or games like hand clapping that cross the midline of the body help with this. Learning to jump rope can cause him to focus on his body in space.  Actually, any activity that causes the child to be aware of what he is doing physically helps.


There are a few children who need a lot of support with sensitivity.  If you need more help, there are professionals who work in the field of Sensory Integration.  

Routines and Rituals

Routines and rituals alert the child that he needs to prepare for an activity.  They cue the body which responds automatically after a routine is established.  They support your child's willingness to cooperate, especially with everyday activities like going to bed, doing homework, cleaning up.  A routine can make your child feel safe and competent because it is a repetitive action that he can learn to accomplish on his own.  Many parents create a visual guide for their child to follow because it supports routines. In addition, praise the behaviors that you want the child to repeat.  Be very specific.  For instance, "I like the way you put your book back on the bookshelf when you finished reading it."  Children are more likely to repeat things that are specifically praised.  If you just said, "Good job" the child has not heard specific feedback on what he should repeat.  Specific feedback catches the mind's attention.  Routines support physical muscle memory.  


Use time alerts to help your child transition to another activity.  You will get more cooperation if you give him a warning.  For instance, "John, in 5 minutes, it will be time to take a bath."  Use his name to get his attention and then state what will happen next, not what will have to stop. For young children you may want to count backwards from 10 or 20 during the last seconds.  A time alert provides your child with time to mentally, physically and emotionally withdraw from one activity and prepare for the next.  Some kids benefit from watching a timer so that it is not you who is saying time is up. If your child can physically do so, let him set the timer to give him some control and get his buy-in.  Some parents let their kids set a smartphone and choose a ringtone.  Some parents play a song and the kids know when it's over, it's bedtime or whatever.  Music cues the body.

Energy Control

You can support your child by using your energy to calm his energy or by teaching him to change his energy.  Energy changes affect behavior, grounding and emotions. Some ideas:

  • Stand to the Side - When you want your child to do something, stand to his side when you make the request. Many spiritual teachers say that the left side is the receptive side so perhaps stand to your child's left to support his "receiving" the message. Use your child's name first to get his attention, then make your request.  Standing to the side helps because you are less confrontational than when you are facing him. You don't want a face-off.
  • Hand on Back - When your child is not settled and unable to focus, place your hand on your child's back. This helps him ground.  Calm your own energy and then place your palm above the waist and below the shoulder blades.  Do this over clothes.  Just calmly hold your hand there for 30 seconds or so. You do this naturally when your child is upset.  I am asking you to do it intentionally when your child needs to be more settled. This works because you take your mature energy and direct it into your child's body so that he aligns with your calm energy.  Do this anytime you feel that your child needs to be settled or more focused.  For example, if he has trouble concentrating on his homework, or you see frustration building. It works. It was explained to me in a metaphysical way by the spirit Alawshara who was channeled by Lesley Michaels. Try it even if you don't understand this explanation. "While you have a hand specifically on the back, which is where you root in the heart and the solar plexus, you ground into the body there.  The emotions, the heart, is the bridge between the physical and the energetic so when you place a physical hand on the heart and allow your energy to just be centering and just be balanced it allows another individual to bring their energy and settle it in their physical form in a way that eliminates the discord." 
  • Heart Press - Teach your child to place his hands on his chest. This helps settle the energy into the body.  It is similar to how a human will place a hand on his chest when he is shocked by something and doesn't want to over-react. It helps a person control his energy. Teach your child to hold his hands there, one over the other, until he feels calm. While he does this, closing his eyes eliminates visual distractions.
  • Shake the Dog - There is an ancient Qi Gong exercise called "Trembling Horse" that works to dispel negative energy from the body.  This is just a more child friendly name. First, the hands start shaking, then the wrists, then the elbows and shoulders.  Then, the whole body shutters like a dog shaking off water. Finish with a strong shake of the hands toward the floor while exhaling loudly.  Best if done three times.
  • Stomp - Ever notice that when children are mad that they stamp their feet? It's a way of releasing energy and feeling the earth beneath their feet. It can change the vibration of the body just as tapping on a baby's back can help soothe him.
  • Hug a Tree - This sounds silly but it is effective.  Trees have deep roots into the earth and branches that reach up to spirit. Teach your child to place his hands on a trunk.  This will settle his energy. The energies of the human and the tree intermingle and then your child feels his connection to the earth. Your child is very much like the tree.  He is here to live on earth and reach up to spirit.
  • Exercise - It is the rare child that gets enough exercise.  Public schools usually provide it two to three days a week.  Some sports teams provide it but only a couple of times a week and often a lot of that time is spent watching others move. One of the best ways for the soul to integrate with the body is through exercise. It gets a person out of his head and grounded into the body. It releases tension. It helps a young body learn how to work in a coordinated manner. It also helps a body, including the brain, function at an optimal level thus making it more comfortable for the soul.  Exercise grounds human energy in the body because of the strong awareness of the body during exercise. Exercise also increases the relaxation response by releasing toxins from the body.  Make sure your child drinks water after exercise to help flush out the toxins and to rehydrate.  Use exercise as your ally in behavior management and if possible exercise outside to get the vitamin D benefits. http://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/GettingHealthy/Physical-Activity-and-Children_UCM_304053_Article.jsp#.TsFS2 and  Ratey, John, Spark:The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain, 2013
  • Play Beautiful Music - Some children's energy responds to the energy of music. Background music can be calming and can be used as part of a routine or even when the child is doing homework to improve concentration.  I used to quiet and calm a whole first grade class with Pachabel Canon D with Ocean Sounds.  One day an easily distracted boy asked, "Teacher, aren't you going to play the beautiful music?"  Research supports the ability of music to affect the brain and the body's ability to calm and heal itself. "The data that's coming in from functional MRI studies and a number of musicology groups around the world are really suggesting that music is much more than adaptive speech," MicMillen said. "Much more of the brain is activated. The information initially comes in in the parts of the brain close to where blood pressure, heart rate and wellbeing are regulated. The involvement is much greater than we ever expected ..." http://wamc.org/post/music-medicine-musician-s-mission-heal

Hydration

Teach your child to drink more water.  Water composes 90% of a baby's body.  This amount decreases over the years.  An adult's body is about 60% water.  Water is a great conductor of energy and serves as a lubricant throughout the body.  To amp up the benefits of water, bless it.   Dr. Masaru Emoto studied the effects of blessings on water when it is frozen into ice crystals.  He found that ice crystals formed of water that was blessed were stunningly beautiful and usually symmetrical, whereas ice crystals from polluted water, or when ugly words were spoken to it, were not beautiful. (Emoto, Masaru, The Hidden Messages in Water, Beyond Words Publishing, Hillsboro, Oregon, 2004)


Two lessons from this:

  • Say kind words to the water you drink
  • Remember that the body is largely water so be aware of the words you use with people, especially your child.  

A simple way to enhance your child's water is to draw a heart on his water bottle or place a heart sticker on it.  Don't just buy a bottle with a heart on it.  It is important that you participate in the thought.

Sleep Concerns and Helpful Ideas

There are two concerns about your child's sleep patterns.

  1. The amount of sleep he gets and needs
  2. Getting the child to go to bed and sleep

The first is usually helped by improving the second.  Research indicates that most children do not get enough sleep. Often they habituate to the number of hours they are use to getting and we think that is all the sleep they need.  In fact, if they sleep more, they function better in all realms: physical, mental, spiritual and emotional.  The Sleep Foundation website has information about the amount of sleep needed by each age range and suggestions to support these amounts.  Research indicates that most parents (75%) underestimate their children's sleep needs. So your child's integration of mind, body and soul might benefit with more sleep than he is accustomed to getting. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21546852    and http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/sleep-topics/children-and-sleep       


Here are 10 suggestions:         

  1. Routines - Get ready for bed using a consistent routine and time. It may be helpful to create a checklist (with pictures for a young child). A regular bedtime cues the mind and the body that it's bedtime. Sharing a daily appreciation helps a child reflect on the day and builds the habit of gratitude. You want him to be specific.  For example, "The teacher liked my question about_____." As they get older they might say, "I asked a great question about ______today." "I enjoyed the trip to the zoo when the gorilla looked at me." "It was fun when my friend, _____, played basketball with me during recess." You can teach your child to do this by being a model. "I appreciated that I got all the laundry done." Or "I enjoyed sitting quietly in the sunshine today." "I appreciated seeing that beautiful park when we go lost today on the way to _____." This activity trains your child to have a positive outlook which will benefit his well-being.
  2. Turn off the TV/electronics one hour before bedtime.  Difficult to do but important.
  3. No caffeine (soda) within 6 hours of bedtime.
  4. A dark room - a little night light is ok but no daylight (so make sure you don't have "daylight" lightbulbs) If needed, use blackout curtains.
  5. White noise in the bedroom like an air-purifier (get one with reusable filters so you don't have the cost of replacing) or use a white noise machine or app. The purpose is to cover noise in your household, but be aware that white noise machines give off an electromagnetic field.  Keep it at least 6 feet from your child's bed.  For psychic children, white noise also blocks the voices/sounds of spirits. Many, many children are psychic. (see Mental and Spiritual Aspects)
  6. Move the bed away from electromagnetic fields. This is controversial, but there is enough concern about the negative effects to make it worthy of your attention. Keep all electrical appliances a least 5-6 feet from the bed. This includes those on the outside walls, like air conditioners and electrical panels.  Move your child's bed to the other side of the room.  Certain crystals placed in the room can help by absorbing electromagnetic energy.  If you are interested in crystals, check out the web.
  7. Feng Shui recommends that the bed face the doorway.  This relates to deep seated, residual fears from prehistoric times.  If you face the door, you can see "surprises" coming.  This bed position supports a child's relaxation.
  8. No fun before bed.  You don't want any activity that the child will be resistant to stop. This is one reason I recommend reading books earlier in the day. It is easier and more enjoyable for parents to read aloud when their primary goal isn't putting the child to bed and the child will not delay bed by requesting another story. However, you need to find that other time to read books to your children. It is critical to their learning to read, developing their vocabulary and enriching their knowledge. Check out this website for all the reasons why and free info for parents. http://www.trelease-on-reading.com/brochures.html            
  9. Put a plant in the bedroom. Our air is cleaned by plants and clean air promotes more restful sleep. In addition, your child will learn about living things. This could be a science lesson and/or a lesson of respect for living things.  A broad leaf plant works best to clean the air.  When I was a teacher, I had a broad leaf plant in the classroom and it needed water everyday.  It was such a thirsty plant.  Since I brought the plant home, it only requires water once a week. Clearly, the plant worked very hard in the classroom.  Just be sure to place any plant outof the reach of young children and pets.  It could be toxic.  Better safe than sorry.  
  10. Aromatherapy can be useful if your child has trouble sleeping. There are small humidifiers that will diffuse essential oils with moisture into the air throughout the night. The website below explains several ways to use essential oils and provides some guidelines for their use.  It provides information on which essential oils promote sleep and the amount to use dependent on age.  http://www.holisticonline.com/Remedies/Sleep/sleep_ins_alt-aromatherapy.htm

Diet

Between children being picky eaters and a parent's desire to quickly and easily provide meals, children often do not have an optimal diet.  This affects their physical being, their behavior and their soul integration.  Remember that the soul can feel confined in a physical body and if the body is not well-tuned the soul has more difficulty integrating fully.  If your child is often grumpy, sluggish, not performing up to his potential or has poor behavior consider his diet.  Even if you provide excellent food, he may be eating elsewhere.  Be aware that many schools now provide free breakfast for children. This is a benefit to the children who need it, but is it calories your child needs?  This breakfast contains a lot of processed foods and sugars.  How does sugar effect your child? Many people have an energy let down about an hour after eating a sweet, and some children do become hyper with sweets.  Watch out for breakfast foods loaded with sugar and never put a sweet in your child's lunchbox. I've watched many, many children eat the sweet first and then not be hungry enough to eat his nutritious lunch despite promises he made to you to do so.  A child needs an energy balance, not glucose fluctuation, to support his integration of mind, body and soul so that he can engage in activity in a grounded manner.  In addition, life long eating habits are being formed.  Don't give sugar treats as a reward or to make him feel better.  If you do so you are training him to use food as an emotional crutch and this can lead to eating problems/obesity as he grows up.

The Question

What did you learn that you will implement today to support your child's physical aspect?

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