This Taoist saying expresses the heart of Spiritkid. A child's "whole being" includes his mind, his body and his soul. When they are integrated in a balanced manner, he functions most successfully as he lives, learns and creates. When the soul integrates its energy with the heavier physical energy of the body, it surrrenders and accepts the body. In a sense, it settles in and surrenders into human life. However, since the body is a heavier energy than the soul, the soul can find it confining and limiting. When this integration is not balanced, your child may be more distractible, moody, anxious and be uneasy with the demands of human life. Your child functions at his highest level to "develop his life" when the integration of mind, body and soul is balanced. Human beings have physical, mental, spiritual and emotional aspects that create the "whole being". How these components work together influences the integration of mind, body and soul.
You make a huge difference in the outcomes for your child. What you do and say is powerful. This is supported by the relatively new study of behavioral epigenetic that indicate that life experiences of the mind, body and emotions impact the expression of genes and the genes of future generations. You are important!
The energy of the soul is formed of light, vibration and particles that blend with the denser energy of the human body. This alchemical merging creates a human being with a mind and a soul. The soul learns to merge into the body in order to surrender to its current role as a human. This usually occurs during infancy and childhood, but can continue into later childhood years. The physical human includes the body's energy fields, which although invisible to most, are physically present as a component of a human being.
The soul is an intelligent entity with a mind that developed over lifetimes. It merges with the human body and also merges with the human mind. This blending creates a new mind that belongs both to the soul and the human being. It is through this new mind that the soul and human process and develop creative thoughts and learning.
The soul is a divine, spiritual being or energy that is in constant relationship with the spirit world. A portion of the soul remains in its energetic form in the spirit world and is called the higher self. This higher self is the same energy as your child but is not your child. Your child is the human being. The higher self is an energy source and provides guidance and support for the incarnated portion of the soul. Young children communicate more than adults with their higher self, but all people have an inborn relationship with their higher self.
In addition, spirits communicate with your child to provide love and guidance on a continual basis. Your child's soul is sensitive to energy fields and responds to energy that is not always visible to the human eye or otherwise measurable (like other people's energy fields and various spirits). The soul is spiritual, therefore a portion of it is able to leave the body to refresh itself. Each night, while your child sleeps, a portion of his soul returns to its source and then comes back and integrates with the body. This integration is more difficult for children than adults who have had lots of practice.
Emotional energy swirls around your child and reflects and influences his feelings, wellbeing and actions. The soul integrates most successfully when your child's energy is positive and positive energy (think happiness) comes from your child's engagement with life, accomplishments, and good relationships. All of these are more likely to occur if the mind, body and soul are integrated in a balanced manner. Additionally, your child benefits when he learns to handle his emotions with resilience and to respond to the emotions of others with empathy. Strategies are provided to help your child do this.
We want these four aspects to harmonize and fit together to create a balanced, optimized person. An individual's harmony spreads through his family, his friends and associates, his social arena and the world of which he is a member. When this energy is harmonious, he is more successful in all areas of his life. Then he develops a sense of well-being. Martin Seligman, the leader of positive psychology, describes well-being as " a combination of feeling good as well as actually having meaning, good relationships, and accomplishment." (Seligman, Martin E.P., Flourish, Free Press, New York, 2011. p. 25.). It is the ease of interactions with self, others and events that contribute to good relationships and accomplishments. This ease supports self-esteem and your ease of parenting because your child's resistance is lower. Then he becomes more engaged in his life and fulfills his intentions and goals. This increases his well-being.
This graphic shows the balanced integration of the mind, body, soul and emotions. This integration supports your child's ability to be present and make good choices.
This graphic illustrates misalignment in the aspects. When this happens, it is more difficult for your child to function at his highest capacity and to roll through life easily.
Imagine a ball rolling through life smoothly, and then imagine another ball with dominance on one side and perhaps a bulge on one side. These balls are rolling to the same place, but one will have an easier time getting there.
This website provides you with ideas that support balanced integration so that your child can roll through life more smoothly. The reason that any area might "bulge" is that the area became dominant and when that happens the integration of mind, body and soul and the surrounding emotions becomes off balance. For instance, if a child can't stop thinking about something, then he is unable to give his attention to the present. If a child is overly sensitive to physical stimulation, he may be unable to attend to his present purpose because he is focused on his body. A well balanced system works most effectively.
In addition, be aware that these aspects are separated out only for the purpose of discussing them. In our human reality, they are highly intertwined with each other. A child is a mind, body and soul overlapped and influenced by emotions, positively or negatively.
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